Transform Your Relationships: The Ultimate Guide to Couples Counselling in Coquitlam
By: Zahra Lakhdhir, MACP, RCC | Serenity Counselling | Port Coquitlam, BC
Relationships aren’t always easy; even the strongest couples can hit rough patches. Whether it’s miscommunication, built-up resentment, or simply feeling disconnected, it’s normal to need support. That’s where couples counselling in Coquitlam comes in.
Whether you’re newly together, married for years, or somewhere in between, counselling can help you rebuild trust, improve communication, and reconnect emotionally. Let’s dive into everything you need to know about couples counselling, especially if you’re in Coquitlam, Port Moody, or the Tri-Cities area.
What Is the Difference Between Couples Therapy and Couples Counselling?
The terms couples therapy and couples counselling are often used interchangeably, and that’s totally okay. Both refer to the same process of working with a trained professional to improve your relationship. Whether you call it therapy or counselling, the goal is the same: helping you and your partner communicate better, resolve conflict, and strengthen your connection.
Benefits of Couples Counselling
At Serenity Counselling, we specialize in couples counselling in Coquitlam that couples can count on for compassionate, evidence-based support.
So why do people go to couples counselling? Here are just a few reasons:
Better communication – Learn how to talk so your partner actually hears you, and learn to listen.
Conflict resolution skills – Disagree respectfully without it turning into a full-blown argument.
Emotional connection – Rebuild intimacy and affection.
Repair trust, especially after betrayal or long-standing issues.
Stronger partnership – Create a shared vision for your future.
Couples I work with in Coquitlam often tell me they wish they had started sooner; the clarity and relief can be life-changing.
Photo Credit: Priscilla Du Preez
Types of Couples Counselling Approaches
There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to counselling, but here are a few popular approaches:
1. The Gottman Method (My Specialty!)
This is a research-backed method developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It focuses on:
Building “love maps”
Managing conflict constructively
Enhancing friendship and fondness
Creating shared meaning
I use the Gottman Method in my Coquitlam practice because it’s practical, evidence-based, and really works for most couples.
2. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Focuses on attachment and helping partners understand their emotional responses.
3. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for Couples
Helps identify thought patterns that may be causing conflict.
When Should You Consider Couples Counselling?
If you’re asking yourself this question, it might be time. Some signs include:
You’re having the same arguments on repeat.
Affection and intimacy are dwindling.
There’s been a betrayal or breach of trust.
You feel more like roommates than romantic partners.
One (or both) of you is considering separation.
Couples from all over Coquitlam and the Tri-Cities come to counselling not because they’re failing, but because they care enough to improve.
How to Choose the Right Couples Counsellor in Coquitlam
Choosing a counsellor can feel overwhelming, but here are some tips:
Look for specialization in couples work, like the Gottman Method.
Check credentials and experience.
Book a consultation — trust your gut about whether it feels like a good fit.
You deserve a safe, judgment-free space where both partners feel heard.
Common Myths About Couples Counselling
Let’s bust a few myths I hear often:
"We must be failing if we need counselling." Nope, seeking support shows strength and commitment.
"The counsellor will take sides." A good counsellor (like me!) is neutral and here for both of you.
"We’re too far gone." Many couples come in on the brink, and still find their way back.
"It’s only for people about to break up." Counselling is just as useful for strengthening a solid relationship.
Photo Credit: Tabitha Turner
What to Expect in Your First Session
You might feel nervous, but don’t worry, your first session is about getting to know each other. We’ll:
Talk about what’s bringing you in
Review your relationship history
Set goals for our work together
Begin building a roadmap based on your unique strengths and challenges
I use structured Gottman assessments to guide our work and provide clarity early on.
Meet Zahra Lakhdhir, Your Couples Counselling Specialist in Coquitlam
Hi, I’m Zahra, a couples counsellor passionate about helping people reconnect, repair, and grow.
As a lead practitioner offering couples counselling in Coquitlam, I’m here to help you strengthen your relationship with insight and care. I specialize in the Gottman Method and work with couples from Coquitlam, Port Moody, Port Coquitlam, and surrounding areas. My goal is to create a warm, compassionate, and safe environment where both of you feel supported and respected.
Every relationship has ups and downs; you don’t have to navigate them alone.
Photo Credit: Zahra Lakhdhir
Some kind words about Zahra
Zahra consistently built strong, trusting relationships with clients, showing deep empathy and respect for others, exceptional professionalism, compassion, and clinical skill. Her ability to listen actively and respond thoughtfully is truly remarkable.
- Restorative Counselling: Counsellor, MA, RCC
Zahra's warmth and compassion create a safe, welcoming, non-judgemental, and therapeutic space where folks feel truly seen, heard, and empowered to grow. This space allows for people to explore all emotions and thoughts no matter how difficult they are.
- Ryan Steuer: Counsellor, MEd, RCC
Zahra is an excellent therapist, grounding her client-centered approach in Satir Family Systems. Her authentic presence and commitment to inclusive care ensure clients feel genuinely heard and supported throughout their healing journey.
- Kenneth Shevlin: Counsellor, MA, RCC
FAQs About Couples Counselling in Coquitlam
Q: How long does couples counselling usually take?
A: Every couple is different, but many begin to see progress after just a few sessions. Ongoing support depends on your goals and needs.Q: Is everything we say confidential?
A: Yes, confidentiality is a top priority, unless there’s a safety concern.Q: Can we do sessions online?
A: Absolutely! I offer both in-person sessions in Port Coquitlam and virtual counselling for your convenience.Q: What if only one of us wants to come?
A: That’s totally okay. Individual sessions can be a helpful way to work through relationship concerns on your own. If your partner decides they’re ready to join later, I can recommend another couple’s counsellor for you to work with together, just to make sure there’s no conflict of interest. You can still make meaningful progress, even if you’re starting on your own.
Ready to Reconnect? Book Your Couples Counselling Session Today
Looking for couples counselling in Coquitlam that residents trust? You’re in the right place
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to invest in your relationship. If you’re ready to take that next step, couples counselling in Coquitlam, Port Coquitlam, and Port Moody sessions are available both virtually and in-person with Zahra.
Let’s start the conversation. Book your free 20-minute consultation today.
